Better than who?

"I'm better than my ex, I'm stronger and better than them"

I have heard this a lot over my life and and I just have to laugh at the mislead and false Americanism that we as a society have swallowed. The most recent I heard this was in the queue at the local Morrisons supermarket while waiting to pay for the items I needed to get.

One thing people need to learn is that the only person you need to be better than is yourself, I know this all to well I have made many mistakes and I have learned from most of them. Even the one called my last relationship, the mistake there was not knowing exactly what I wanted in a partner (I'll admit I am not entirely sure now but I have a better idea than three years ago) and letting go of my own self interest and autonomy too easily I know that for a partnership to work there are certain things that must be done but there are a whole lot of things that must be avoided all but one of these I will address in a later blog once I have done my research.

The one thing that must be done I can remember of the top of my head is to share all of the house work, that is if you share a home of course, and the one thing I know you must avoid is to compare your partner to your last partner or to compare them to individuals they are not take them as they are and accept them. But I am getting off track here.

One your relationship has broken down finish it there and then (don't drag it out, it'll only hurt the both of you in the short term and build up a whole lot of bad blood) and don't even bother to assign to the ex-partner any form of emotion for example; hate, as the emotion of hate only eats away at you from the inside and that will only bugger up any future relationship you have because you will be obsessively comparing your current partner to the one you left. Thus terminating your current relationship with extreme prejudice, take it from someone who helped in the buggering up of a relationship. That is why I choose to love my Ex-partner even now, that and  know that it irritates the living hell out of her. I refuse to block her I refuse to think ill of her I wish her all the love I can just because I can and it is the best way to live.

I know what I was wrong and I will make no more apologies for it nor will I explain further about that past relationship, but I know that partner still reads my Blog and I say to her and all who wish to read this that. You cannot be better than me because you are not me, instead focus your energies on being better than the person you were when you were with me for that is where you fell down and failed to get up.

Good luck and Brightest Blessings to you all.
Steven